On Covert Abuse, Shared Secrets, and the Refusal to Be Complicit
A Documentation of Tactics
The operators engage in a pattern of behavior that involves building a repository of perverse jokes, accusations, and shared narratives. These are not merely casual exchanges. They are tools of coercion.
The Tactic: Building a Repository of Shared Secrets
One tactic involves creating a body of content, jokes, accusations, narratives, that is shared among the group. This content often revolves around exploitation: of civilians, of vulnerable populations, of individuals who are unaware that they are being discussed or used as material.
This serves multiple purposes:
Group Cohesion. Shared secrets create bonds among abusers. The knowledge that they are all participating in the same behavior, that they all know things that outsiders do not, strengthens group identity.
Grooming. The abusers use this shared content to groom their targets. They make the target aware that such content exists, that it involves them, that they are being discussed in perverse ways. This creates a sense of exposure, vulnerability, and complicity, even when the target has done nothing.
Exploitation of Innocents. The content often involves individuals who have no knowledge that they are being used. Civilians, children, people going about their ordinary lives, their images, their reputations, their dignity are exploited without their consent.
The Goal: Complicity and Corruption
The operators' goal is to make their targets feel complicit. They want targets to believe that because they know about the abuse, they are part of it. They want targets to feel that silence is the only option, that speaking out would expose their own supposed involvement.
This is a form of grooming. It is designed to trap the target in a cycle of shame and silence. The abusers share their perverse content; the target becomes aware of it; the abusers then imply that the target's awareness makes them complicit. The target is left defending themselves rather than exposing the abusers.
I have not done this to others. I have not exploited anyone's image, reputation, or dignity without their knowledge. I do not share in their jokes, their narratives, their shared secrets. I do not find their behavior amusing. I find it abusive.
On Being Accused of Hypocrisy
They call me a hypocrite for calling this out. They claim that by documenting what they do, I am somehow like them. This is a false equivalence.
I am calling this out because it is happening to me. I am documenting what is being done. I am not the one doing it. I would not treat another person the way I have been treated. I would not exploit a younger person, a vulnerable person, anyone of any race or background in the ways they have exploited me.
If I were in their position, I would not do what they do. If someone were doing this to me, I would not find it exciting. I would not participate. I would not share in their jokes or narratives.
Their accusations of hypocrisy are themselves a tactic. They want to silence me by making me defensive. I will not be silenced.
On the Nature of Esoteric Knowledge
There is a notion in esoteric traditions that difficult, long-winded, even obnoxious texts can contain deeper truths. The idea is that knowledge that is hard to access, hard to read, hard to understand may hold more value than what is easily consumed.
I am not making a claim about esoteric traditions. I am noting that the operators use this idea to justify their behavior. They believe that what they are doing, secret, hidden, accessible only to the initiated, is valuable precisely because it is hidden.
But hidden knowledge used to exploit, to groom, to harm is not wisdom. It is abuse dressed in the language of mystery.
I am not interested in their secrets. I am interested in the truth. The truth is not hidden. It is not reserved for the initiated. It is available to anyone who seeks it.
On the Attempt to Control Bodily Autonomy
The operators try to influence the most basic aspects of life. They attempt to make ordinary, voluntary bodily functions feel perverse. They try to insert themselves into moments that should be private, autonomous, neutral.
This is cruel. It is calculating. It demonstrates their own dysfunction more than it reveals anything about their targets.
I will continue as I am. I will not let them make me feel that my ordinary life is perverse. I will not accept their framing. I will not become complicit in their lies about me.
A Perspective on What I Would Not Do
I have thought about how I would perceive myself if I were in their position. If I were doing what they do, building repositories of exploitation, sharing perverse jokes, trying to corrupt others, I would have to confront what I was doing.
I would not be in that position. I would not treat another person the way I have been treated. I would not do to a younger person, a vulnerable person, anyone of any background what has been done to me.
If someone were doing these things to me, I would not find it exciting. I would not participate. I would not share in their narratives. I would not try to make the victim feel complicit.
This is not self-righteousness. It is a simple statement of fact: I am not them. I do not do what they do. Their accusations do not change that.
Conclusion
I call this out because it is the right thing to do. I am not doing it because I enjoy it. I am doing it because it is happening to me, and silence benefits the abuser.
The operators want me to feel complicit. They want me to believe that my awareness makes me one of them. They are wrong.
I am not their repository. I am not their joke. I am not their secret. I am a person who documents, who tells the truth, who refuses to be made complicit in abuse.
References & Notes
On Grooming and Covert Abuse
Grooming is a process by which abusers gradually gain trust and manipulate victims into accepting abuse. One tactic involves creating shared secrets that make the victim feel complicit (Salter, 1995; Transforming Trauma; Lanning, 2010; Child Molesters: A Behavioral Analysis).
On Shared Secrets and Group Cohesion
Abusive groups often use shared secrets to create bonds among members and to trap victims. The knowledge that one is being discussed, exploited, or used creates a sense of exposure and vulnerability that can be weaponized (Hassan, 1988; Combatting Cult Mind Control; Lalich, 2004; Bounded Choice).
On Esoteric Knowledge and Abuse
The use of esoteric or "hidden" knowledge to justify abuse is documented in cultic contexts. The claim that difficult or secret knowledge is more valuable can be used to mask exploitation (Hassan, 1988; Combatting Cult Mind Control).
On Bodily Autonomy and Coercive Control
Attempts to make ordinary bodily functions feel perverse are documented in coercive control literature. Abusers seek to insert themselves into the most basic aspects of a victim's life to create a sense of constant surveillance and dependency (Stark, 2007; Coercive Control).
Biblical References
John 8:32 "You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."
Proverbs 4:5-7 "Acquire wisdom! Acquire understanding! Do not forget nor turn away from the words of my mouth. The beginning of wisdom is: Acquire wisdom; and with all your possessions, acquire understanding."
Romans 12:2 "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind."
1 Corinthians 4:7 "What do you have that you did not receive? And if you did receive it, why do you boast as though you did not?"
Psalm 27:1 "The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear?"
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